My rating: 5 of 5 stars
This little book is quite timely and comes from a wise pastor who himself struggles with same-sex attraction (SSA). He prefers using the term “SSA” because he does not see homosexual urges as defining who he is; that is, he is not first and foremost gay, just as many people who enjoy steak are not first and foremost carnivores. We are all people in need of the grace of God and the good news of the Gospel of Christ’s grace.
This book is written in a wise, winsome way. It is both theologically uncompromising and clear, honest and open. And yet, such theological “rigor” is neither stifling nor Bible-thumping. It’s one thing to hold a high view of Scripture, another to Bible-thump. Rather, it is gentle, full of grace, pastoral, and personal. It is a very short read, but it is because of the good writing and concision, not lack of content.
I highly recommend this book for anyone, Christian or non-Christian, struggling with SSA or not. This is a great resource for anyone who wants to know what the Bible says about homosexuality/SSA. But this book is not really just about SSA or homosexuality. It is really about the Gospel and how it works itself out in terms of our sexuality (not just “homo-“sexuality).
This is a “controversial” topic that isn’t going away: everyone is watching how the Church, which purports to be the Body of Christ, interacts with homosexual people. And this topic is vital and does not need to be controversial. It is only controversial if the church is more like the waiting room before a job interview and less like the waiting room for a doctor’s appointment.
Another excellent book related to Christianity and Homosexuality is Rosaria Butterfield’s The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert. My review can be found here. For a positive view of marriage, see my review of Christopher Ash’s fantastic book, Marriage: Sex in the Service of God, a rare gem of a book, wherein I could not find any disagreement with anything Ash wrote; it is that fair and balanced and biblical, sensitive, lucid, and pastorally wise. It is singlehandedly the most robust book on the biblical-theological foundations of marriage (Christian or otherwise) I have ever read (granted I have not read much, but then again, there are not that many good books out there on this topic).