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This post is simply for me to reference these quotations, which Keller communicates well things I am wholeheartedly affirm, and instead of typing them down on Zotero or LibreOffice or Google Docs, I can quickly reference them via this blog.
Also, I believe this book can be especially helpful for those who do not understand why marriage can be a legitimate pursuit or who are at best ambivalent about the (potential) goodness of marriage. It is also potentially most helpful for those who are engaged and/or married and want a resource to help in seasons of disillusionment.
But when the Bible speaks of love, it measures it primarily not by how much you want to receive but how much you are willing to give yourself to someone. … In so many cases, when one person says to another, “I love you, but let’s not ruin it by getting married,” that person really means “I don’t love you enough to close off all my options. I don’t love you enough to give myself to you that thoroughly.” To say, “I don’t need a piece of paper to love you” is basically to say, “My love for you has not reached the marriage level.” (78)
The only way for you be truly free is to link your feeling to an obligation. Only if you commit yourself to loving in action, day in and day out, even when feelings and circumstances are in flux, can you truly be a free individual and not a pawn of outside forces. Also, only if you maintain you’re love for someone when it is not thrilling can you be said to be actually loving a person. The aesthete does not really love the person; he or she loves the feelings, thrills, ego rush, and experiences that the other person brings. The proof of that is that when those things are gone, the aesthete has no binding care or concern for the other. (97)
I was given an advanced copy (without page numbers) of this book in exchange for an honest and voluntary review on Goodreads. “Footnote” citations do not explicitly include chapter number; in actually, they are endnotes, which was somewhat aggravating, if understandable, for me. Also, I have put in boldface where I mention each chapter. Quotations are to be understood to belong to their respective chapters, unless otherwise explicitly cited. Continue reading →
UPDATE (2014 Sept 30): I believe that while many may benefit from this book and while it does address many pastoral issues, I would like to clarify that I find this book’s view of justification and sanctification as pastorally incomplete. See my review of Mark Jones’ Antinomianism, which I believe offers a more nuanced and fuller perspective. The link is provided at the end of this post.
First, I would like to thank the Alliance of Confessing Evangelicals for rewarding me with this free book from their book giveaway hosted on the Mortification of Spin Podcast Series (you can see my name there). Now I can’t say I don’t win giveaways anymore (though forsooth, I would have preferred winning something like Amazon’s $5000 giveaway, but I must learn gratitude and contentment! I am thankful for winning this book). Continue reading →