Excerpts from Tim Keller’s “The Meaning of Marriage”

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of GodThe Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Timothy J. Keller

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

This post is simply for me to reference these quotations, which Keller communicates well things I am wholeheartedly affirm, and instead of typing them down on Zotero or LibreOffice or Google Docs, I can quickly reference them via this blog.

Also, I believe this book can be especially helpful for those who do not understand why marriage can be a legitimate pursuit or who are at best ambivalent about the (potential) goodness of marriage. It is also potentially most helpful for those who are engaged and/or married and want a resource to help in seasons of disillusionment.

But when the Bible speaks of love, it measures it primarily not by how much you want to receive but how much you are willing to give yourself to someone. … In so many cases, when one person says to another, “I love you, but let’s not ruin it by getting married,” that person really means “I don’t love you enough to close off all my options. I don’t love you enough to give myself to you that thoroughly.” To say, “I don’t need a piece of paper to love you” is basically to say, “My love for you has not reached the marriage level.” (78)

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The only way for you be truly free is to link your feeling to an obligation. Only if you commit yourself to loving in action, day in and day out, even when feelings and circumstances are in flux, can you truly be a free individual and not a pawn of outside forces. Also, only if you maintain you’re love for someone when it is not thrilling can you be said to be actually loving a person. The aesthete does not really love the person; he or she loves the feelings, thrills, ego rush, and experiences that the other person brings. The proof of that is that when those things are gone, the aesthete has no binding care or concern for the other. (97)

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My Thoughts On A Touchy Subject That May Need More Discussion

I’ve written a draft of something that I’ve been thinking and mulling over, trying to formulate what it means to obey and honor our God with our bodies in the matter of sex. I don’t pretend to know all that much about sex, but it’s been something I thought a lot about, and I hope my incompletely-developed and ongoing thoughts about it may be of some use or benefit to those who seek to live truly human, fulfilled lives in joy and obedience.
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My Review of “What Is the Meaning of Sex?” by Denny Burk

What Is the Meaning of Sex?What Is the Meaning of Sex? by Denny Burk

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Those who are familiar with and/or grounded in biblical sex-ethics will not find a lot of “creative” new or original material from Burk. But that is not to say that his book is anything but incisive, relevant, refreshing, and sorely needed.

He defends the classic view of marriage and sex, but his exegesis is alive, careful, and faithful, and his writing lucid and precise. Burk sees the storms coming where the young generation will be forced to pick sides and stand firm on questions of homosexuality, marriage, gender, etc.
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My Review of “Marriage: Sex in the Service of God” by Christopher Ash

Marriage: Sex in the Service of GodMarriage: Sex in the Service of God by Christopher Ash

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

A tour de force and the go-to book for understanding Marriage in light of robust Christian/creational theology. A rare book that I can find no error in. With great wisdom, clarity, and thoroughness, Ash grounds his understanding of marriage and related gender issues in a firm theological foundation based on careful and faithful exegesis of Scripture.

He answers, among many other questions, what marriage is, what its purpose is (to fulfill the cultural mandate of ordering and caring for creation), in what way is woman a helper to man (and the answer is to help man fulfill his calling before God, and NOT to address his loneliness!), should one look for a marriage partner, and if so, what should one look for in a marriage partner. Continue reading